In simple words, Premature Ejaculation (PE) refers to a condition where the man ejaculates much too soon and even before his female partner or himself has reached sexual climax. Ejaculation can be said to have happened too soon if it occurs somewhere between 30 seconds to 2 minutes of penetration. When PE happens, it usually leads to dissatisfaction from the sexual encounter, frustrations in the case of constant failure, and even problems in a marriage.
It is estimated that around 30% of men suffer or have suffered from this condition at some point in their life, causing them to obvious distress. Performance anxiety is another related issue that is both a cause and effect of PE, which makes matters worse.
Types of premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation can be categorized into two types: lifelong and acquired. Lifelong PE shows its first signs in the teenage years when the person starts experiencing sexual contact. While this condition might be harder to treat if it arises out of deeper psychological issues, bad habits such as quick masturbation to avoid getting caught also contribute to the problem. Acquired PE happens later in life, usually because of mental or issues in the relationship. Physical causes such as high blood pressure and diabetes are also contributing factors.
Techniques of delaying ejaculations
Before you head over to consult a doctor, there are few techniques you can practice at home to see if they are effective. Usually, the most common methods are masturbating some time before sex, having sex frequently, and certain types of sexual positions.
If you aren’t satisfied with the results, then consider practicing two short-term behavioral strategies known as “start-stop” and “squeeze techniques.”
“Start-stop” technique: This is a simple technique that can be practiced alone or with a partner. It involves stimulating the penis almost to reach the climax and stopping just before the ejaculation. Stop stimulating for 30 to 60 seconds and begin once again when you don’t feel the intense desire to cum anymore. Keep repeating the process as many times as you want by stopping and resting every time you’re about to reach the point of orgasm.
Finally, let the ejaculation happen when both of you are satisfied, and you can’t hold it any longer. While this technique may prove useful, it is important that you communicate openly with your partner about the pauses and try to incorporate it as smoothly as possible into sex.
The “squeeze” technique: This technique, even with its follies, is useful as it can delay your ejaculation for quite a long time. It works by pressing the area between the shaft and the glans for around 20 to 30 seconds just to the point of ejaculation. While this may stop the ejaculation temporarily, there is also a chance of you losing the erection until you are stimulated once again. Repeat the process 4 to 5 times the decide not to delay it anymore.
This technique is to practice for several months to attain mastery and also requires a great degree of perseverance from both partners. The idea behind this method is to identify the extreme end of the climax so that you can delay future ejaculations naturally.
Practice keggles: This exercise is not only beneficial for adding some size to the penis(More on that here) but also gain some muscle control during ejaculation. Practicing keggles work on strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle that helps control ejaculation. However, you have to be consistent with your efforts and do at least three sets of 10 reps each day for quite a few months to see visible results. There is no easy way out as far as this exercise is concerned.
Reduce anxiety: There’s no denying the fact that there’s much more to sex than just humping and grinding. If you happen to get anxious about performance, spend more time in building up the final act rather than jumping straight into penetration. Engage in various types of foreplay, kiss and cuddle your partner, perform oral sex to give her an orgasm, and be comfortable with each other’s bodies like you’ve been never before.
Once you are relaxed, sex is much more pleasurable as it is intense. And most of all, you’re no longer face the anxiety of satisfying your partner because she’s already had an orgasm.
Use special condoms: Thicker and “extra-durable” condoms tend to provide a decreased level of friction during penetration thus keeping stimulation at a lower level. An extra durable condom has a numbing agent on the tip of the shaft that reduces sensation of the penis, thus making you capable of lasting longer in bed.
Have more sex: Practice may not make everything perfect, but it sure can improve how long you last. According to Larry P. Gassner, M.D., an internal expert at MDVIP, men who suffer from PE can better by extensive practicing. He said that performance anxiety is the leading cause of PE only seconded by psychological issues; this can be treated by increasing partner similarity and level of comfort they share with each other.
When to consult a doctor?
If you have tried every possible home remedy and technique PE but to no avail, it may be time to get a professional opinion on what really might be going wrong. A doctor of medicine can accurately diagnose your condition and narrow down to the root of this cause so that he may give you the right medications. If your state of PE is due to psychological reasons, then you may get in touch with a behavioral therapist who may aid you in venturing deeper into your psychology and find the exact reason.
Proper communication with the therapist as well as your partner may hold the key to a fulfilling sex life that is just waiting to be explored.
Premature ejaculation is perhaps the most common as well as the most treatable sexual disorders among men. So, if you are experiencing or just noticing the signs of PE then don’t waste any more time and try out some of the tips mentioned in this guide. There is nothing to worry about because this disorder can be treated safely and without much hassle.